My mother is in a skilled nursing facility. She is 94 years old and she has a broken leg so she’s going to be there for a while
many of the aids I feel are good and caring.
I am able to be there every day for several hours
I felt when I was there today that they don’t pay attention to her when I’m there.
They were going up and down the hall I believe, changing peoples diapers and etc. and they were just ignoring my mom. I went out to ask them if they had a schedule or when they were going to change her and the woman became very angry and snapped at me. Tell me she had just changed her which was not true, and that my mother says no every time thry asked to help her, but my mother is deaf, extremely weak and almost 100 years old and it’s a ridiculous thing to say and they said they told me that she buzzes when she needs to be changed and I saw the buzzer hanging over the side of the bed out of my mother reach
i’m also concerned that if they don’t move her and pay attention to her, she will never regain her mobility
I talked to the nurse head nurse on duty and she came in and she talked to me and my mother and I believe she talked to the aids and I heard her tell them them to check on my mom every two hours
Here is my concern that I have pissed off the aid, and that she’s not going to treat my mother right
also confusion because my being in the room has actually allowed me to be more helpful with the aids. I have gotten her blankets I’ve gotten her drinks without her having to buzz
I think the woman was just on the defensive, but she was incredibly inappropriate with me. This is a private skilled nursing facility.
I already spoke to her shift nurse
I feel like I want go in during the work week and talk to the Director of nursing.
I am concerned about this woman interacting with my mother. I saw her later change my mothers diaper, and while she did it, she didn’t say a word she did not engage.
They treated her like a piece of meat, and I see them show more personality with other patients.
Anyone have any experience with a nasty aid who is responsible for their parents health?
Thank you
I layed low today
I can definitely say that they’re ticked but at least they did do their job
I’m not going to stop being here with my mom. She is death and has a broken leg and is almost 95.
They were not checking on her. And I called them out
If they had responded peaceably in the first place, I would not have gone to the shift RN, but also with a broken leg she needs to be moved so it’s not just about the diaper
One of the things they said was that when they see a family member in the room, they don’t enter which is ridiculous because then she doesn’t get any care if I’m here? Also, I have been helpful to them. She has buzzed much less because I have gotten blankets and drinks, etc. Myself.
It shouldn’t happen but aides are only human. I suggested to Dad that he’d get better treatment if he focused on the aide, joked with her a bit, paid her a compliment now and then.
It’s good psychology to show appreciation for what someone does right rather than hostility when they do something wrong. Not that they should get away with doing bad things. They should be held accountable. But approaching in peace and saying WE have a problem works better than saying YOU are the problem.
If this is a nice size facility, the aid could be reassigned to another section?
Good luck to both of you, hopefully this situation changes quickly for the better.
Nursing homes pretty much hire anyone who's a CNA because it's lousy back-breaking work that offers nothing. You're not going to get the cream of the crop among CNA's in a nursing home even a private one. Those aides go into homecare instead. It's the same pay with no benefits, but you're taking care of one person on your shift instead of several.
Myself personally, I went over to private homecare because that's where the money is. Now I have my own business.
If a client is paying well enough I'd sing them a song while wiping their a$$.
I'm going to let you in on some good advice that comes from 25 years of experience as an aide and working with aides. If your mother's diaper is getting changed regularly, don't complain too hard if it's not getting done with style and finesse. I've known plenty of aides who were all personality and smiles with the patients, but didn't do their jobs very well. Some of them, not at all.
They'd be super friendly with residents and always have smiles for family members but would leave grandma sitting in her own sh*t and wait out their shift. Of course they did it with a very pleasant and sweet demeanor.
Choose carefully how much trouble you want to make for a nursing home CNA taking care of your LO. Not showing enough personality isn't a good enough reason to get someone in trouble.
But you’re right I am afraid of sort of retaliation so they’re just sort of doing their job and nothing else.
When my mother was in the hospital before she was released with a broken leg, PT said that family presence in skilled me rehab makes a big difference
And I said yeah but you don’t want to piss anybody off and she said who cares?
I don’t care if they like me. I don’t need a buddy but I do want them taken care of my mom well and now I’m anxious about that.