My wife is bored here in Florida: all the snowbirds are gone and she has no activities to keep her busy.Back up north are all her best friends and activities daily in our senior apartment. Her Do tor here feels change is not good. I disagree.my adult kids are worried if we relocate she may no longer recognize them. I want to go but don't want to hurt the kids.
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Your wife with dementia is going to decline whenever her environment changes. Period.
Do as you wish but don't say you weren't warned.
Ultimately this is your decision.
But I would like to think that the choices you make now would be in her best interest.
I am going to burst your bubble here a bit.
1. Her friends will NOT stick around for long. They will move on and continue to do things that your wife will not be able to do. And that may happen sooner rather than later.
She will not be able to maintain conversations when out to lunch.
A menu will begin to confuse her.
She will want to leave far sooner than the group wants to.
She will not be able to continue playing cards, Mahjong, tennis or whatever. they do.
She will be embarrassed by her incontinence, her inability to follow conversation, unable to find the right words.
Because of all this they will stop calling, stop inviting her.
This Will happen with her friends both in the North and the South.
You/She will have to find activities that she can manage. An Adult Day Program would be ideal.
You may think that she is "not that bad" and "does not need day care" but getting a break in a program where she is understood, has projects that she can follow, has contact with others that have similar problems is a relief. She does not have to pretend or make believe she can relax and just be herself with no judgement. (and her friends will judge)
As I mentioned before in your last post...travel with someone with dementia is a whole 'nuther thing. It is not easy.
Travel by car...you almost can't sleep for fear they will leave the hotel room, they will wander off while you go to the washroom. Where and how to change a soiled brief and soiled clothes at a rest stop.
Travel by air. the confusion in an airport with all the noise and all the people. Going through security can be tricky.
What happens when you are mid flight and she wants to leave?
What happens when you get to your home in the north and she wants to "go home"?
As difficult as it is accept that your daughters are right and that she should remain where she is.
If you want to go North for a while...go.
I guess the real question is where do you want to spend your time with her.
Where is it that you will get the family support that you will need.
Where is it that you will be able to get the help that you will need.
If the answer is in the South with your daughters then your wife should remain there.
Maybe...just maybe it is time to clip your wings. Make one last trip North and get your house ready for sale and begin that process.
The sale of the house will allow you to help pay for her care. It will remove one financial burden from your life.
I am thinking that you made another post about this topic hoping that you will get the answer you want. Sorry but life does not work that way. I am sure many of us on this site would want something different that what life has handed us but you play the cards you are dealt and make the best of it.
So I think you're going to have to make a choice as to where you want to live with her now permanently, either in Florida or back home up north.
In the meantime while you're deciding, get your wife involved at an Adult Daycare Center there in Florida as they do a great job with folks with dementia. She can be there up to 5 days a week and 8 hours per day, and they will serve breakfast, lunch and a snack and have all kinds of different activities to keep her as busy as she'd like to be.
I wish you well in making the best decision for the 2 of you.