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I had to move into moms house13 years ago- To caregive her- she’s legally blind !Sold my house - As sister is 900 miles away . Has not been to mom’s house in 5 years! Can my mom or my sister remove me out house if she can’t come back to her house!
Then, yes, your mother may ask you to leave. As you have been in this home for some time, almost certainly you are considered a "resident" and a "renter" even if rental isn't being paid, especially if you have given care for mother in the past. If you refuse to leave, your mother will have to evict you legally according to the laws of your city or county.
You ask if you SISTER can make you leave. If your mother is incompetent and your sister is her POA, then it is very likely that she will be able also to ask you to leave the mother's home. She would also have to go through the legal loopholes to have you leave.
I wish you good luck. If you are no longer now caring for your mother in this home, do get a job and begin to tuck money away as quickly as you can. If you are disabled you may have rights to governmental assistance with low cost housing and etc. Check with any rental board in your area. In San Francisco it is almost impossible to evict renters, and even if you wish to move in your own family after buying a building you have to pay for moving costs. You may have rights you are not aware of.
The situation sounds complicated due to your caring for your mother over the years. It is important to discuss this with an attorney or other real estate professionals to understand your rights and responsibilities in this situation. Given your devotion and concern for your mother, there may be legal options that can ensure your stay in the home or provide you with other options to resolve the situation.
From reading your profile, I don't think you can be anyones Caregiver again. If your Mom wants to come home, it will need to be to an AL and you need to make that plain to your sister. Your sister is in lala land too if she thinks she can take someone suffering from Dementia on a plane. I hope she planned on being with Mom. No way could Mom fly alone. Maybe, until you know how you stand medically, Sis can place Mom invan AL near her. I really don't think, though, you will ever be ablevto care for Mom.
I would say it would be very hard to remove you from Moms house. You have established residency there. And you were Moms Caregiver. It would be an eviction process. Going to court and giving reasons why you should not be evicted. Medicaid would allow you to stay because of the Caregiving. But u would need to prove you can pay the bills on the house.
I would worry about that if and when it happens. Right now, take care of yourself.
If neither of you can provide Mother's care, she will need to obtain care elsewhere eg AL, NH or other care type accomodation.
It may be helpful to obtain a professional placement agency. To do the leg work of finding a place, to help with the financial side. If you live in Mother's property, that will need to be disclosed & yes this *may* change your living circumstances - an expert in elder financial law may be useful to find all the available options. You may even find a downsize may suit you due to your changed situation.
I wish you much strength for your recovery & this big adjustment time.
Not sure I quite understand who has the medical problems. Did your mom leave the house because of her medical problems and isn’t going to be coming back? And how does the sister figure into this – does she have power of attorney? If those two things are right, then whoever owns the house (Or a POA acting on behalf of the owner) controls who lives in the house. Assuming you’re not an owner, then the owner certainly could ask you to leave……unless you have a tenant – landlord relationship with the owner. That last depends a little bit as I understand it on state law – certainly if you’ve been paying rent, but sometimes if you’ve been providing services in exchange for housing.
Realistically,, if your mom is going to be residing in some sort of care facility, and has no plans to return to her house, she may need to sell the house to pay for it.
There are not many details above, so I might not have the situation framed correctly.
Edit: I now see other post by this OP —the situation sounds complicated.
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Then, yes, your mother may ask you to leave.
As you have been in this home for some time, almost certainly you are considered a "resident" and a "renter" even if rental isn't being paid, especially if you have given care for mother in the past.
If you refuse to leave, your mother will have to evict you legally according to the laws of your city or county.
You ask if you SISTER can make you leave.
If your mother is incompetent and your sister is her POA, then it is very likely that she will be able also to ask you to leave the mother's home. She would also have to go through the legal loopholes to have you leave.
I wish you good luck. If you are no longer now caring for your mother in this home, do get a job and begin to tuck money away as quickly as you can. If you are disabled you may have rights to governmental assistance with low cost housing and etc.
Check with any rental board in your area. In San Francisco it is almost impossible to evict renters, and even if you wish to move in your own family after buying a building you have to pay for moving costs. You may have rights you are not aware of.
I would say it would be very hard to remove you from Moms house. You have established residency there. And you were Moms Caregiver. It would be an eviction process. Going to court and giving reasons why you should not be evicted. Medicaid would allow you to stay because of the Caregiving. But u would need to prove you can pay the bills on the house.
I would worry about that if and when it happens. Right now, take care of yourself.
If sister can't, she can't. Doesn't mean you can.
If neither of you can provide Mother's care, she will need to obtain care elsewhere eg AL, NH or other care type accomodation.
It may be helpful to obtain a professional placement agency. To do the leg work of finding a place, to help with the financial side. If you live in Mother's property, that will need to be disclosed & yes this *may* change your living circumstances - an expert in elder financial law may be useful to find all the available options. You may even find a downsize may suit you due to your changed situation.
I wish you much strength for your recovery & this big adjustment time.
Better to be proactive , as this situation could get ugly .
Realistically,, if your mom is going to be residing in some sort of care facility, and has no plans to return to her house, she may need to sell the house to pay for it.
There are not many details above, so I might not have the situation framed correctly.
Edit: I now see other post by this OP —the situation sounds complicated.