My mother who is 65 is an alcoholic. She drinks at least 2 bottles of wine every night. She is so depressed. She has macular degeneration and is legally blind. She is in constant pain with arthritis and nerve pain. She says the drink is the only thing that helps her. We have spoken about her drinking and her depression but nothing changes. She doesn't want to help herself it seems. She sleeps all day until late evening and is also on a lot of medication for various things. She keeps getting UTIs so the doctor gives her antibiotics for this. It helps for a few days and then the uti comes back. Has anyone else have these issues with their parents? I really don't know what to do.
Does she live with you?
Many times I have asked her to talk to her doctor about the medication she is on as some of them she has been taking them for years. One does this, the other does that because they each have different side effects. I have lost faith in doctors as they don't seem to care and just give her her prescription without asking how they are affecting her.
Many times I have asked her to talk to her doctor about the medication she is on as some of them she has been taking them for years. One does this, the other does that because they each have different side effects. I have lost faith in doctors as they don't seem to care and just give her her prescription without asking how they are affecting her.
I highly recommend Al-Anon. You will see yourself as though in a fun house set of mirrors; others will be ahead of you in learning how little you can do for others. There are great people with great resources and a real sense of community and commiseration.
Your mom is only 65. She is still pretty young. I hope you can move out ASAP and focus on your own life. Do you have any plans to move out?
Move out.
As far as her recurring UTI's, is she finishing the whole prescription, or just until she's feeling better? Most courses of antibiotics are for 7-10 days, and it's very dangerous for someone not to complete the whole 7-10 days, even if they're feeling better after a few days. But again, your mom is a grown ass woman, and if she doesn't choose to take her prescriptions properly, that's on her not you. After you move out and you're concerned about her, you can always make a call to APS, and report what's going on with her. They can take things from there. Wishing you the best.