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Regarding the original question from a couple years ago, unused cemetery plots, one needs to check with the cemetery as depending on State law, only the cemetery can buy back the plots. Most cemeteries have to register the owners of plots with the State, thus selling on ebay wouldn't be allowed.
Actually I had a similar issue. Upon mom's first husband's death, she purchased a plot for him, her and me. I have absolutely NO desire to want to be cremated/buried and placed there. Since I had to sign the papers yesterday to open mom's plot to have her urn & vault put in her plot. (She died last month.).. I had asked them about my plot. Their suggestion, to contact the Salvation Army or other like organizations. Unlike us having "Potter's Field" from decades ago, people still do not have money to be buried and/or cremated and placed to rest. From what I understand Salvation Army will make use of placing an "indigent" person in that plot should you wish to donate it. Mom had purchased her plots for $100 back in 1969. The plot there now is just over $1000. And you can use it as donations on your taxes should you chose to itemize. Call your local Salvation Army and a few of the larger churches and ask if you can donate the plot to them? Call them in before you actually donate them. As not every Salvation Army accepts plots. I am all about options and in light of learning that most cemeteries will not buy back plots (unlike vaults placed in walls) I had to find something else to do with it.
sdveryhappy, there are several organizations that will welcome an extra plot. Some funeral homes will handle pauper burials for indigent people. Some family organizations will handle them for children who die in families without resources or for those who lost a loved one in a crime or accident. I would donate a plot to the organization that appealed most to my heart.
Ok, upon further research I found hearingaiddonations.org, which is sponsored by SERTOMA, which is a service organization much like the better known Rotary Club or Lions Club. I'm glad to have this subject brought up.
Bumping this discussion up because my inlaws bought their burial plots a long time ago for very reasonable prices. Other members of the family are already buried there. Recently my FIL brought up these plots that are in another state. He thinks he needs to buy new burial plots that are closer to where they live now. Has anyone flown a casket to another state for burial? Is the cost prohibitive?
NY DIL, FreqFlyer had both of her parents flown to the Midwest for burial. Both died in the last year, so she would probably have good, current information. (I'll PM her for you.)
NYDaughterinLaw, my parents lived on the east coast and my Dad had a family burial plots out in the mid-west. When both my parents had passed separately, I was surprised how smoothly everything went.
Your inlaws need to talk to a local funeral director where they live, as this will be the correct way to handle this task. He/she will work out the cost. The cost at this end will depends if there will be a viewing, what services they will want, etc. Both my parents had a viewing at the church and then a Mass.
There will be the cost of whatever is needed on this end. Then added cost for a crate, and cargo ticket, and time it takes for the funeral home to drive to the airport that they use for shipping caskets. The local funeral home here will handle all of that. They try to get a direct flight if at all possible. Thus the casket might remain here for an extra few hours depending on the flights... and the weather.
Now at the other end of the line. That local funeral home will drive to the airport to pick up the crated casket. There will be a mileage cost to bring the casket to that funeral home. Now the rest of the cost will be if there is a viewing, a church service and/or grave site service. A coffin concrete ground liner is always used, and they cost around $1500 depending on what is recommended for the liner.
For my parents, the total cost from start to finish was around $15,000 each. It cost $10k here where they had lived a large metro area, and $5k at the family plot which was in a 2-horse town.
Oh, then there is the cost for the headstone. Cost can vary from area to area.
If your inlaws can handle the cost, it would be best if they are using the family plot. Cremation would be less expensive along with cost of transfer. My parents were totally against cremation.
Neither I nor my sig other flew out to the family plot. I wasn't in the best of health from all the years of stress, and flying was out of the question :(
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If you have trouble finding a drop-off site, I think Walmart has one at their optical department, but you can call other eyeglasses stores to ask.
I'm not sure about the hearing aids, but since they're so expensive, it would be nice to be able to recycle them too.
That is a very good question and sorry it was ignored since February 6.
Sounds like a good deal.
Your inlaws need to talk to a local funeral director where they live, as this will be the correct way to handle this task. He/she will work out the cost. The cost at this end will depends if there will be a viewing, what services they will want, etc. Both my parents had a viewing at the church and then a Mass.
There will be the cost of whatever is needed on this end. Then added cost for a crate, and cargo ticket, and time it takes for the funeral home to drive to the airport that they use for shipping caskets. The local funeral home here will handle all of that. They try to get a direct flight if at all possible. Thus the casket might remain here for an extra few hours depending on the flights... and the weather.
Now at the other end of the line. That local funeral home will drive to the airport to pick up the crated casket. There will be a mileage cost to bring the casket to that funeral home. Now the rest of the cost will be if there is a viewing, a church service and/or grave site service. A coffin concrete ground liner is always used, and they cost around $1500 depending on what is recommended for the liner.
For my parents, the total cost from start to finish was around $15,000 each. It cost $10k here where they had lived a large metro area, and $5k at the family plot which was in a 2-horse town.
Oh, then there is the cost for the headstone. Cost can vary from area to area.
If your inlaws can handle the cost, it would be best if they are using the family plot. Cremation would be less expensive along with cost of transfer. My parents were totally against cremation.
Neither I nor my sig other flew out to the family plot. I wasn't in the best of health from all the years of stress, and flying was out of the question :(
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