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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Often when a person says "I want to go home" they do not mean a physical home. Home represents a time when they were Healthy Home represents Safety Home represents Love and Comfort. And for some "home" may mean a Heavenly Home.
Your response can be: You are home, you are safe. I love you and I am here for you.
Physical contact. Hold a hand, give an arm or leg massage with some nice lotion (lavender is calming).
Quiet gentle tone of voice, if possible drop the octave a bit, higher pitched tones are more difficult to hear. Look at the person so they see your face. Much communication is visual. And many people read lips without even realizing they are doing so.
Often when a person with dementia asks to go home they aren't referring to their last home but their childhood home where their parents were and they felt safe, as the long term memories are the last to go. So you can just say that this is their home now and go get them some ice-cream to distract them.
If they are in MC they won't remember whatever you tell them... you'll be saying it again and again. My philosophy is to keep my LO as peaceful as possible. It's up to you to acknowledge their wanting to go to their childhood home or correct where they live. Change the topic or distract them with something light and fun or funny.
With my MIL in LTC we tell her that as soon as she can perform her ADLs for the doctor, she can leave. This gives her a goal, gives her tiny hope and takes the angry burden off the family. She always accepts this. Then we change the subject.
If I had told my mother in Memory Care Assisted Living that "I wouldn't want to be here either", that would've increased her angst and agitation over "wanting to go home" and created a worse situation than already existed. Using "truth" with dementia patients is senseless because we are applying OUR rules of normalcy to people who's brains are broken, expecting their reaction to be the same as ours, without broken brains! Then we're shocked when they're freaking out 😑
The only goal with dementia patients is to keep them calm in the present moment, because that's all they HAVE is the present moment. The immediate past no longer exists, nor does the immediate future. That's why distraction works best.
Wishing you the best of luck dealing with the cruel and ugly condition known as dementia. You have my sympathy.
This is a hard one. My LO has been in care 4 yrs. He has FTD so he doesn’t forget. 4 solid yrs of asking/demanding/ threatening behaviours. Attempted and successful escapes. Getting out and getting in taxis that bring him back to the house. (An hour journey)Extremely upsetting for all concerned. What has worked out best now is a co ordinated approach where Drs staff and me all refer to when the “special assessment team” deem him well enough, he can go home He cannot come home for a visit anymore. This has really reduced his requests to go home. He is calmer
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
That won't happen.
Home represents a time when they were Healthy
Home represents Safety
Home represents Love and Comfort.
And for some "home" may mean a Heavenly Home.
Your response can be:
You are home, you are safe.
I love you and I am here for you.
Physical contact. Hold a hand, give an arm or leg massage with some nice lotion (lavender is calming).
Quiet gentle tone of voice, if possible drop the octave a bit, higher pitched tones are more difficult to hear. Look at the person so they see your face. Much communication is visual. And many people read lips without even realizing they are doing so.
So you can just say that this is their home now and go get them some ice-cream to distract them.
With my MIL in LTC we tell her that as soon as she can perform her ADLs for the doctor, she can leave. This gives her a goal, gives her tiny hope and takes the angry burden off the family. She always accepts this. Then we change the subject.
The only goal with dementia patients is to keep them calm in the present moment, because that's all they HAVE is the present moment. The immediate past no longer exists, nor does the immediate future. That's why distraction works best.
Wishing you the best of luck dealing with the cruel and ugly condition known as dementia. You have my sympathy.