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I do hospice volunteer work and most of my patients have some level of dementia. I find that some people are quite comfortable with their own company, happy with their thoughts while others enjoy the company and long visits. I has one sweet lady who would tolerate my visits for about 10 minutes and then would say, "Well, I'm needed over there now!" That was my cue to get lost.
Dementia is a mystery in many ways. It sometimes makes people behave in unusual ways. I don't think we can know the reason. I just accept it.
She may get tired after a short visit. She may have trouble concentrating. She may forget that you've only been there for a few minutes. Her mind may tell her it's been an hour or more.
I now anticipate that with my loved one when I visit her her in memory care. I let her take the lead. Even though she loves to see me, I have had her roll her wheelchair out into the hallway as if I'm not there. She just can't absorb certain things. I just let her take her time. I might wait and approach her a few minutes later. At times, I think he forgets that I'm sitting there. She is so easily distracted.
Don't take it personally. Just limit the visit. Perhaps, leave and come back in 5 minutes and see if she is up for another short visit. To me it's the quality of time, not the duration that's important. I realize that eventually, she is likely to not even recognize who I am when I enter the room.
bookworm, as Sunnygirl had mentioned above, dementia is a mystery... no one knows why a person thinks or feels the way they do. You just have to go with the flow, that I what I do with my Mom.
If my Mom is zoned out half awake in her room and she doesn't respond to me, I stay just long enough to hang up her freshly washed clothes and gather dirty clothes. If my Mom is out in the common area and she knows who I am, I will stay longer.
My Mom is in her late 90's, and today she asked me to take her to see her Mom. Other times she will ask to see her sisters [all of whom had passed on]. I usually tell her "we will do that tomorrow" and she's fine with that answer.
Bookworm, sorry to say that I can't add anything particularly enlightening to the comments you've already received. But I am just curious....before the Alz/dementia dx was your Mom an outgoing, social person who enjoyed the company of others? Or, was she someone who preferred to be solitary.....not necessarily unsociable but maybe just as happy in her own company? I only ask because my Mom (94 w/moderate dementia, still knows her family and friends) is still sweet, smiling, friendly and sociable BUT she has always been that way. Her short-term memory is shot. She will never remember anything discussed during a visit but will remember "we laughed a lot and had a great time".....confirmed in fact by phone calls and emails saying, "your Mom still has a great sense of humor.". This makes me very happy and I know, so far, I have been blessed. Also, I have to say, in my Mom's case (and I don't mean to generalize because previous posters are right: DementiaWorld is a very individualized experience, apparently) but my Mom's sense of time (time of day, time of year, time passing) was one of the first things I observed her losing sense of......over 2 years ago, she would tell me, 1 hour after lunch, which I ate w/her, that she was "starving" and hadn't eaten all day.....so, personally, I find it entirely credible that some of what you may be experiencing, is that total loss of any accurate perception of the passage of time. Sorry that you are also on this confusing journey but wish you the best!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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She may get tired after a short visit. She may have trouble concentrating. She may forget that you've only been there for a few minutes. Her mind may tell her it's been an hour or more.
I now anticipate that with my loved one when I visit her her in memory care. I let her take the lead. Even though she loves to see me, I have had her roll her wheelchair out into the hallway as if I'm not there. She just can't absorb certain things. I just let her take her time. I might wait and approach her a few minutes later. At times, I think he forgets that I'm sitting there. She is so easily distracted.
Don't take it personally. Just limit the visit. Perhaps, leave and come back in 5 minutes and see if she is up for another short visit. To me it's the quality of time, not the duration that's important. I realize that eventually, she is likely to not even recognize who I am when I enter the room.
If my Mom is zoned out half awake in her room and she doesn't respond to me, I stay just long enough to hang up her freshly washed clothes and gather dirty clothes. If my Mom is out in the common area and she knows who I am, I will stay longer.
My Mom is in her late 90's, and today she asked me to take her to see her Mom. Other times she will ask to see her sisters [all of whom had passed on]. I usually tell her "we will do that tomorrow" and she's fine with that answer.