I feel very very guilty for being so upset seeing my husband dying and not being able to help him. I try eating with him, buying things that I feel he would like. Every day I have to throw away his food. He only wants to eat some fruits and little amount.
Maybe I insist and he wants to demostrate he still have some power, but I still feel guilty. Not being able to help him is devastating. It's my fault, he is only 78 years old and started with vascular dementia about 6 years ago (first signs).
Thank you in advance for any suggestions or help.
Please don’t feel guilty or that anything is your fault. It’s not. You are doing the best you can for him. It’s a nasty, vile disease and people who care-give for people with dementia are heroes.
Yet, it is important that you continue to encourage liquids and soft foods.
Tell his physician about the issue right away—especially if he refuses to drink.
Perhaps it is time to allow someone to come in to help you help your husband. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging. These agencies have resources and ideas for people in your same situation. I think you will enjoy and appreciate the support.
Have you considered hospice to keep him comfortable? Hospice is wonderful for support and they know how to navigate these things, and also support you too.