How can I convince my elderly father not to send money to scammers?

What legal authorizations do you have over your Mom and Dad - POA'a, Guardianship/Conservatorship? Besides getting an immediate medical/neorological diagnosis for your Dad (maybe pretend you are taking him for his annual check or a routine test), I would also consult an Elder Law attorney - please waste no time about this.
Are you named on the bank accounts? If so, you might be able to freeze them, or change the registration making only you as the signator, but I am not sure about the legality of doing that, so again, your best bet on this issue is to consult an Elder Law attorney ASAP. In the meantime, I would find out what mortgage broker he is dealing with, and have a chat with him. He will most likely stall your Dad, until you get your attorney's advice. Perhaps also speak to his personal atty and financial advisors. There believe there are ethical considerations in dealing with a incompetent client. My best wishes to you.

Agree to contact lawyer - or if you have to - Adult Protective Services for your area. I would think this would fall under elder abuse.

I wouldn't hesitate to call the police (bunco squad) or a TV station with an investigative reporter (consumer advocate) to alert them there are scam artists working your area.

Main thing - you need to protect your parents - if your father is falling for this scam he probably should not be handling their finances on his own.
As you said - before he loses all the money your parents have for their care -

My husband did the same thing, he has dementia. I closed his P.O. Box and all mail to comes to our home which I go through and trash those letters, plus he gave out his cell phone #, I had it changed. Envelopes are getting fewer & fewer and no money is going out to them. Good luck - I contacted the better business bureau, FTC, Fraud Org.

My husband and I have had alot of experience in this area! My in-laws sent away about $35,000 before we caught on. These scammers are from outside the US, mainly Jamaica. We contacted everyone, the state police, FTC, Attorney General of our state, US postal inspector and local post office. Got no help from any of them because these scammers are "outside the United States" is what we were always told. We even went so far as to alert Walmarts in the area about them and asked that a red flag come up in the computer when they attempted to wire money. They did call us and tell us that they were there trying to wire the money from time to time. The only good suggestion we got was to change my in-laws phone number, which we did do. But the scammers somehow got the new number even though it was unlisted. We changed the number again and I know this sounds cruel but we didnt tell my in laws what the new number was. Mother-in-law with Alzehimers and Father-in-Law with early dementia. My husband, who is their POA and only child, had to step in and close their checking account and open a new one because Mom gave out the account numbers. They were irrate with us for awhile. They were wiring the money through Western Union or Moneygram anywhere from $300 to $2800 a time! We came to find out that the scammers had people who worked for Moneygram who were in on the scams! Unbelievable, huh? We just received a letter about the Moneygram investigation and the in-laws may get some of their money back. They are both in a nursing home now. You need to definitely have a POA (both financial and medical). I urge you to get one ASAP or if you father isn't competent then you may need to get him proved incompetent to handle his own affairs via the court system and his doctor would have to give a deposition on his incompetence. The scammers prey on the elderly pretending to be their "friends". One time they called when we were at their home, my husband pretended to be my father in law. They told my husband exactly how much to wire and not to tell anyone about their winning millions of dollars. I can't believe that there isn't something that our government could do about these people from Jamaica. Also Nigeria is another hotbed of this kind of activity. I know exactly what you are going through! Good Luck with this.

I went through this years ago with my mother. I told her, next time they call, tell them you'll have to talk to your son first. My mother had a hard time telling them no, and this gave her a way out. It also allowed her to feel in control. As soon as she told them, she would have to talk to her son...most hung up and stopped calling.

You need to take over their business - get a POA and handle their finances ASAP!!! The other suggestions on here are also terrific. There must be a special place in h*ll for people who scam senior citizens. I just can't imagine people who would do that. UGH!

please do what you can to get POA and take control of this. My dad fell for every mail scam and was writing checks for 1000 dollars for rusty wrenches. And opened the door to ANYONE! He is with me and my daughter now...we formed a 3 generation house and he knows i am the boss now lol He signed all his bills and headaches and money to me and he knows i take good care of him.

If your parent is pretty "together" mentally still, this information may help "educate" them. I am also an adult only child, former POA, whose father is now deceased recently. He left a mess and no way to really pay for it, as he cashed in all his life insurance and other annuities to pay for his "helping" a church.

About charitable fundraising: "How You Can Educate Others"
Nonprofits register either as in state or out-of-state. From there these register with the IRS as a 501(c)(3). You can look these up on the IRS website, or through Guidestar. Just because an NPO successfully registered at state and IRS level (Secretary of State offices don't review that closely to see if paperwork is fully complying with the state laws usually), and it passed the IRS 18 point qualifying test (if you do your homework you can find the 18 points by reviewing IRS tax law cases), it still may have "problems".

Further, the smaller "charities" may need to outsource fundraising. There is a maximum amount they can have for overhead expenses. One way around this is to reduce staff and outsource fundraising. Then "x" $ comes in AFTER the expenses are already removed.

Where this gets a bit borderline, is - as a past President of several NPO boards, we looked at outsourcing fundraising. All (!!!) the reputable companies wanted at least 80% and as high as 89% in fees to do out fundraising for us.
The companies use telemarketers or mail out campaigns.

So that "free blanket you might be getting to support American Indians" or "blind camps" in reality you bought it. Out of every one -dollar donated, figure 80-89 cents of it is going to pay a telemarketer or envelope stuffer.

I explained this to my father last year and he did the math in his head at 92 at the time and told me "I'm not doing 'that' anymore!" What I offered him as an alternative: "It's great you care and want to make a donation. Let me look it up for you and contact this charity DIRECTLY and ask them how to get a check to them DIRECTLY and bypass their telemarketing. That way if you send $10, you know they really got $10 - vs. $1.10." He agreed to that, but he also didn't make anymore donations by phone - he just didn't answer the calls and used call -screening. He also didn't ask me to research any either. So the "education" worked well. Yes, he felt being a victim and foolish for a bit, but he got over it fast - and he didn't have to have me take over paying his bills - yet. That happened in May this year, about a year later.

What you may have to watch for - - my father liked writing checks and wasn't in the world of the Internet. I pay bills by telephone banking or Internet. I've never had a problem yet. No bounced checks, no duplicate checks, etc. Once he wrote three checks for the same bill in the same month and made a mess, he asked me to take over. Not bad for 93 - - he handled this on his own up til the last about three months of his life.

I believe in "empowering" seniors and elderly if at all possible - give them the information and see what choices they will make on their own. Step in only when its REALLY needed. Many or most I am finding their "worst fear" is losing independence by someone taking it away from them. If they "choose to delegate" then they get to feel it is a "right that they have earned" - vs. someone taking over.

all i can say is 'once an adult. twice a child'

I also used the "I'll have to talk to my daughter" excuse, and she told them , "my daughter keeps my checkbook and keeps track of how much I can give to charity"
Now she is in a retirement home and altho she gets some junk mail, she isn't getting calls any more. She is finally letting me open the questionable stuff.
It's a hard place to be in. I had POA on both parents and it sure helped when I had to handle their finances when he died and she didn't have enough income to pay house payments. She had a mental breakdown for a few months and when I got her back to herself, except for the dementia, she was grateful that things didn't get in a big mess when she couldn't make decisions. Good luck and God bless.

Sounds like you need a legal judgement ,see a lawyer.

Better get those POAs, MPOAs and DPOAs, Living Trust and Will in place because you are going to need them! Have him quit-claim the Deed to you so this does not happen to his house. Do it ASAP!!!

I dealt with the same thing with my grandmother! 25,000 dollars later and me moving my family in with her I got it to stop! I had to be put on the POA and her on her account at the bank. They would notify me if she was trying to withdraw money. The bank was amazing with helping me! I did reach out to FTC, Attorney General, police, internet crime website, money dot card, all types of agencies with NOTHING! I even contacted Jamaica government. We went through 20 phone numbers and then figured out she could call them! Canceled long distance and I monitored the phone. She has a 6 thousand dollar loan to pay off from the home equity from her getting loans from other banks after she used all her savings. Its disgusting that these leeches do this to our elderly. I for through her mail as well. Because she got a postcard stating she won a Walmart girftcard well she called while I was out and when I came back she yelled for me and asked which credit card she should give them. So I yelled at the man and told her not to give that out ever! So now I monitor the mail as well. Its a cruel world we live in!

In my experience you can't convince them if it is dementia. The sooner you take action the less work it is going to be on you to get things back in order. I had to get a PO Box and put in a change of address for mom with USPS to the PO Box. Also talked to the mailperson to not deliver any mail at all to moms place. You must change his phone number and get the new number on the National do not call list. You could put a call forwarding on the old line to your phone for a time just to sift through callers if you think its important enough but I did not. Then I notified all good vendors and friends of an address and phone number change to my own house. (I only gave moms new phone number to family and her friends but no one else). As mail came into the PO Box I sorted the good from the bad and contacted the good senders to start sending to my home address and phone. The junk mail I tried to return to sender w/no forwarding to stop the junk. I even wrote and called when I could but a lot of these people are sleeze. It took me a couple years to work out all the problems then I closed the PO Box with no forwarding address. My Alzheimers mother was ordering anything from anybody and even giving them her SS number and credit card over the phone. I got on moms accounts as secondary and started paying her bills online. In fact I setup ALL her accounts online so I could pay bills and even transfer between accounts as needed. Even insurance companies, annuities etc. In getting online accounts setup for all vendors you won't even have to add your name to things unless needed. I got the bank to issue a limited ATM card ($500max) with no point of purchase just cash at ATMs. I had to pay off Publishers Clearing House and Readers Digest for junk she purchased. She thought if she bought the junk she would have a better chance at winning the drawing. After taking over paying her bills I discovered she had spent over $3000 with Pub Clearing and Readers Digest on trinkets (junk). I always wondered what all the rotting flower bulbs were doing around her condo (another story). Sprint was nice enough to credit us back for the 5 cell phones that came to the door via UPS one day that including service contracts. It was funny mom called me and said hey, I just got 5 phones in the mail what should I do. Not remembering that some sleeze bucket salesman talked her into them. Caution also should be taken in that scammers/telemarketers can also have your phone company add certain things to your phone bill as well. Moms phone bill not only had unknown monthly charges for non-sense but also a fortune in calls to some sleeze bucks cell phone in Jamaica of all places. Good Luck but better start as soon as you can to take control of things before it get s out of hand. God Bless you.

An additional note the hardest thing we had to do was finally take the car away from her. As the Alzheimer's progressed she started roaming particularily going out to find who took her car. She would end up at my sons house 2 miles away in the middle of the night dressed only in her night clothes asking him where is my car.

Just to highlight something Palmerky mentioned about the bank's being amazing - I wonder how your father is transferring his money to these lowlife conmen? Credit card or bank, aren't there any applicable consumer laws that would protect him against fraud? I'd try contacting the credit card companies or banks direct and getting their advice.

Anyone know how to block parents from using wire transfer services like Western Union?